Much of our week here has been misty and gray with spectacular bursts of sunlight streaming through violet clouds that fill your heart to the point of overflowing.
I haven't written much this week. Am putting things in order, cleaning out, clearing out, organizing at last. We finally have everything out of my mother's house and all the various storage places and can now go through what we've brought home with the idea of keeping and see where it fits if it fits. I find myself filling boxes and baskets with things for my daughters and moving things around to squeeze in one more dish here, one more photo there. It seems like such an organic process and it's very bittersweet.
The dolls sold finally--for a lot less than we'd hoped. It's ironic that my mom thought all these things were so valuable. Between what we had to sell at the yard sale and the doll collection the total was less than $500. A sad financial legacy really, when you consider that we have spent the better part of the last six months going through all her things, sorting them out, giving them away and yes, throwing a lot away. In retrospect we probably should have just gotten a dumpster but we wanted to honor her life by honoring the things she had saved, at least for a minute or two. My mother left her share of the house and her investments to my stepdad who was to share it equally among us at his passing. He did not honor her wishes, however, and my stepsisters will reap all the financial rewards she worked so hard for. I know this is an old story told over and over by many people. He lied to them, he lied to us, he lied to my mother. The really sad thing was we really loved him, really trusted him. I don't know what he was thinking or why he did what he did. He just did it. My lesson from this is this--protect your loved ones. You never know what will happen after you're gone, who will step in, who will do or not do what. If there is something you want to go to a particular person you need to be sure it is arranged now. My mother did not expect to die when she did and lately I've been wondering if anyone ever does.
In the end, money never matters. And we know for sure my mother didn't take any of her stuff with her! The money and the stuff are not what we hold in our hearts. The heart stuff, that's our real legacy and that just gets richer and richer.
Just look at this day, this lovely, beautiful day. My family brought me here to live when I was a child and I will be forever grateful for that. I can't imagine living anywhere else. It is just so beautiful here. I look around my home, into the eyes of my loved ones and friends and know this is the legacy that has been left me. Strong family ties, respect for creative endeavors, love of nature and the outdoors, an appreciation of education for education's sake, loyalty, compassion, love and a good work ethic, all learned at my mother's knee. Those are the things no one can ever take away from me.
As I settle into the fall and look at my work schedule I feel fortunate to have what I have, to live where I live and do what I do.
I will continue to make tiles, draw, paint, write and teach kids about nature. While others sat in offices all week I spent my afternoons outside exploring coyote dens, wasp nests, fiddler crab holes, salt marsh creeks and a field full of crickets and purple asters. I watched chipmunks stuff their cheeks, hawks soar overhead and listened to blue jays make a huge racket while another hawk tried to hide in a tree.
Sometimes things just click and fall into place. This is one of those times for me. For the first time in about six months I feel I know what comes next.
I'll be posting some new drawings soon.